Loss changes more than we expect.
Most people know about the sadness, the tears, the ache of missing someone. But there are quieter shifts that rarely get talked about — the ones that can leave you feeling confused, isolated, or like you no longer recognise yourself.
Grief Can Be Lonely (Even With Support)
At first, people often rally around. Over time, life continues for others — and that’s when loneliness can deepen. Not because people don’t care, but because grief isn’t something that fits easily into everyday conversation.
You may find yourself carrying things alone, simply because you don’t know where they belong.
Relationships Can Change
Some connections grow stronger. Others fade or feel strained.
You might notice:
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Friends who avoid the topic altogether
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People who offer solutions instead of listening
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A gap between who understands and who doesn’t
This can be deeply painful — and it’s rarely spoken about.
You May Feel Like a Different Person
Grief can quietly shift your priorities, tolerance, and sense of meaning. Things that once mattered may not anymore. Noise can feel overwhelming. Small talk can feel exhausting. This doesn’t mean you’ve lost yourself. It means you’re changing.
Grief Isn’t Always Sadness
Sometimes it’s numbness. Sometimes it’s anger. Sometimes it’s guilt, relief, confusion, or fear. And sometimes it’s all of them in one day. There is no single emotional shape to grief.
You’re Not Failing at This
If no one told you these things, you might assume you’re coping badly.
You’re not.
You’re responding to something life‑altering in the only way you can.
A Gentle Closing
Grief is complex because love is complex.
If you’re feeling things you didn’t expect, struggling in ways no one warned you about, or simply trying to make sense of who you are now — you are not alone.
You are allowed to take this one day at a time.
You matter.
Sharon Makin - Makin' You Matter ❤️
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